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If I take two Tylenol...

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 04:38:36 GMT

The University of Kentucky psychologist Nathan DeWall gave Tylenols to see if the pills ease people's suffering after people had a broken heart!

If I take 2 pain killers, Tylenol, which I am allergic to anyhow each time I have a broken heart, my liver and my ulcer would be done with! Honestly, dear researchers, I am not going to take painkillers to ease my pain. I would find other remedies. Remember: a punching bag, a long run, if necessary, maybe an anti-depressant pill or two!

If a heartbreak can be as intense as a migraine, which could be valid to some people, Tylenol would be a solution to emotional problems.

In my opinion, it makes me wary of how medications could deal with pain. At the same time, these pain medications are only temporary relief from the pain you have from the situation and eventually, you would have to deal with the heartbreak or the situation. No amount of Tylenol will ease any kind of pain.

Disclaimer: I do not recommend or suggest any kind of therapy including talk! That is strictly AN INDIVIDUAL choice!

Tags: depression, Tylenol, pain, painkillers, psychology

Grief is something!

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 06:44:34 GMT

Note: Delay Posting

It is difficult to accept death in this society because it is unfamiliar. In spite of the fact that it happens all the time, we never see it. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Grief could not come close to home when you cannot express how you feel about your closest to you. You could only feel what you can from the outside. The grief can be described as overwhelming and indescribable. Nothing seems to be able to place your feelings. When you know you would like to cry, you barely could let your tears down. It stuck in your throat!. Life becomes falling in several places. You really think life is unfair to you once again! Meanwhile, there are friends surrounding you that have their own issues. You wish you can do more just like Super-person. In truth, you do know your limits. You know that life and time is limited and you can do so much for you and your friends.

Grief always bring back the memories of deep feelings of how important your friendships are. Each moments are precious, important and significant. They are at times, without spoken words. Some people, you are just drawn to them.

Tags: grief, tears, passing, life, memory

8 friends every woman needs

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 18:35:36 GMT

In our busy lives today, we often forget that friendships are very foundation of our lives. We are social creatures and yet we work ourselves and allow ourselves to isolate from the society more since the inception of social technology revolution. Fortunately, we do have ways to build friendships that could also make you happy and healthy.

They are: essential friendship, childhood, a new friend, a workout friend, a spiritual friend, a younger friend, your partner's friends, your mom, yourself.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/wickenden/

Therefore, lets begin the new year with building and fostering better friendships!

Tags: women, woman, health, friendship, friend

New Journeys, beginnings!

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 00:58:30 GMT

Usually a new year would start with new goals and new resolutions. Sometimes, it does not end up this way. It ends up continuing from the year before. It could be from past grief, past relations, passing of a relative, job losses or illnesses. There isn't an easy way to walk through life without rough patches. I can only find myself grow more as a person as people pass on and as people leaves for other things. How life becomes in 2010 for me is only a day at a time. Goals becomes a distant dream, yet, you know you set them on a piece of paper and you can see them in a vision. Nothing are not impossible. Dreams do come true because I am very much a dreamer!

Allow our 2010 dreams, hard work and visions begin!

Tags: beginnings, dreams, 2010, past

Love is a funny thing...

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 05:56:12 GMT

via Flickr by qthomasbower

Photo: via Flickr Over the years, I really like to journal or pray out loud or reflect in silence. Personally, I find these can be very exhausting, at times, but at the same time, it needs to be done. Could you imagine after you have a broken heart, you find yourself falling in love once again, in a manner that you really did not expect to happen? Or someone would perhaps say, is that too soon? Or is that a replacement for your loneliness? All I could say to you is that we do not have the ability to predict our feelings. Nor we could repress our true feelings. I do not like the word, "control". Love is one feeling that when it comes, they are pretty powerful! Repressing it can be very difficult. Telling the feeling to silence it can be a chore! In terms of the acting part, most people would say, you can control how you act.

Now to the actual physical emotion of love. Love is not just an emotion, you can at times, I believe, can be seen and shown in many different ways. We all know about lover's embrace and kisses. The more complex parts would be the communication of love via body and gestural parts, even I would confess I still have plenty to learn about! In fact, love can be part of a dialect, in which can be a very complex. Words cannot describe the silent moments, hmmms, the looks, the one important conversation, or the connection you just knew you made with the special someone.

I do not know from a broken heart, you can mend the heart just with the thread of needle in due time? The only thing I do know is that each lessons that are learnt will remain.

Tags: love, faith, feelings, emotion, heart

Continuing on... still believe

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 00:26:03 GMT

As fall continues on, a lot of things suppose to happen, oh they really do, do they!? I don't want to say that weather does not have a part to it. I usually do not like September, but October to me would be more uneventful. Now this October, my body is more sensitive to the weather changes and to the changes that I have in life even though they may be subtle. I did not accomplish as much as I should, should I say as always? I began to be like the weather, unpredictable, rain one day, sunny the next! I wonder what happens next. Planning for one person may be easy to do, when you say it, actually to act upon it, it is a chore. I would like to stuff my fridge with food! I have food, I still never manage to nourish enough to keep up my energies, blood-work still manage to be below average.

Update: The wind brow into another direction, you know something would happen, you choose to let it come, you grief, how long, you do not really know. Nothing can be said much more about grief, any kind of grief, love, loss, pain, anything else you can think of? I do not think in any age that hurt or grief gets any easier, but the way you choose to cope could be different. Choosing to run away can be a temporary solution, somehow do we all do that? Also pain and sorrow will come back, dealing head on and cry are part of the process. Allow it and embrace it head on. Putting on the smack happy face won't do. Saying that you're fine wouldn't do! I think anger is also part of it if you feel it, but it should be released in a healthy way. I feel life can only go on when you go through all these grieving process.

Tags: thoughts, health, food, energy, body, self-image, believe

Fall is now in!

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 05:56:52 GMT

by: http://www.flickr.com/photos/ishane/

Now that fall is in now, looking forward to the smell of the spices, pumpkin, fixings, and the crisp cool mornings? I guess not too many of us are feeling the fall is among us. Summer come and went too quickly. I don't know anyone would disagree at all! We would all begin to see the leaves are falling! Also rain seems to be more frequent. One would stay indoors more often. You and I would be even more busy or perhaps not as busy and begin to be more reflective about our past summer activities or our lives. By the time we see Oct will come upon us, we will see: more leaves turning into red color and fall! Hopefully, by then, my writer's urge would come into full fledge or back to normal capacity!

Tags: fall, weather, reflection, thoughts, thankful, changes, season, change

When you feel tense or stressed, what do you do to relax?

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 05:22:00 GMT

pic by: http://www.flickr.com/photos/richardstowey/

pic by: http://www.flickr.com/photos/8078381@N03/

by: pareeerica

Tags: Q&R, tension, relaxation, stress

Midsummer Days

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 05:48:19 GMT

As the summer strolled by, laziness would come upon on us, even on me too. I am not going to say I am exactly too lazy doing nothing. I have been doing a lot of work work! I did some socializing, ate some good food, rediscover some of my favorite chore, cooking and strolling along the farmer's market when I have some time to spare. I did not like too much of the oddity of the summer that brought upon our good city (the garbage strike). Yikes!
Moments of deep reflections weren't not much and between for the past few weeks, though there are enough to reflect upon on its own merit.
I do have to say there are a month to go for summer, therefore enjoy!

All Summer Long - in STEREO - The Beach Boys

Tags: summer, reflections, mid-summer

What is the difference between wants and needs?

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 05:07:35 GMT

wants and needs are very similar but yet very different at the same time. in terms of love, it can get very hazy. you want love. you need love. those are the two things. but one is defined as: i really desire love. one is defined as: required wanted. these two words sounds so interchangeable. these two are not. you need to realize that love can only be have it if you really work hard for it! therefore its a want! a need is like something like food, shelter, water, health, emotional health....
love is also a need in an emotional level, yet very complex!
what would you consider as a want?
what would you consider as a need?
discuss if you like below!

Tags: QaR, want, need, desires

Ears Wide Open

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 04:55:00 GMT

A lot of times, we don't have the time to listen. We don't even have the moment to listen to the other person who want to convey their messages to you. Before it is too late or to repair some of the damages relationships can be done. Preventative measures can be done. I believe that taking some time to listen to one another can be very useful when there are important messages or lessons that you can learn from the other person. I would like to say that the lessons that I learn for the last few days are valuable and are being treasured next to my heart. I do not know at anytime, I could say I am the best listener. Listening takes a lot of training, skills and patience to do so.
Over the years, heart to heart talks occur, often they do lead to better relations. Sometimes to closer understanding to your friends. In these cases, at this timeframe, when you talk to someone that you care about could be as basic as get to know you or the other person, these can be very significant in the long run. Sharing is important, though my sharing is limited to generalizing here online because of privacy. I would only say a few things.
Listening
Sharing
Patience
Coming to a compromise
Agree to Disagree
Unconditional love
Forgiveness
What is the point of holding on to the Anger! Yeah, be angry, but let it go at some point!
That's all for now!

Tags: listen, sharing, lessons, patience, relationship, heart, love

Reflections on These Past While

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 06:53:38 GMT

The universe must have some ways to say things to me, my past entry got me into thinking? Is the state of Q&A really not a good way to ponder upon your life? That is not my main point of this entry. I was wanting to reflect upon how Michael Jackson is such a big phemonon on our culture and that it really makes our corner of our lives so small. I was wanting to do a video, but this blog can do my blogcast via voice. Michael has been in our imagination since we watched him when we were young. You like him or not, he made really big influences on music. He really made music really fashionable to listen to in a walkman, CD, DVD, ipod(please some of you do buy his tunes or his styles on itunes or somewhere). His influences were really big for so many people alike from music industry, but also from acting, people that he knew throughout his life or even future inspire-musicians to be. Would you say, when some of you were a kid singing or dancing or having to perform a routine, some of you would pick or pretend to be Michael Jackson? Would you put your music in your college rooms in late nights, while you're supposingly blasing on some other musician of the day?
Did u watch the MJ memorial tribute? Personally had difficult time to bring myself to watch all people crying and would not know when to watch the videos of it. For now, its just a tad too fresh to view.

Jennifer Hudson - WILL YOU BE THERE / HOLD ME: Live @ Michael Jac

Tags: Michael Jackson, memorial, remember, personal, thoughts, reflections, love, music, King of Pop

Crossroads, Starting Over, Human

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:08:31 GMT

In this I will write in third person form. For those who knows me well will know the context means.
Immortity, death, taxes seems to be a few things that comes back once in a while. The compass that one needs can be questioned at one point. Never would one say that bad days would not be around. There are those days one question of what one has done does far because naturally one is a human being. One is weary of how tired and the amount of energy put forth without knowing or still understanding why at times that its fulfilling. Not that one feels empty, could it be because one struggles with emotions that when one needs to express them, you can only do it for oneself. But at the end, it comes back to: hallowness and frustration towards oneself. One does not want to do it for just the others, but for self too. But is self or others so over-rated. Is there exactly crossroads for career, love and family (friendships)? Or for a matter of fact, some parts of life are in need of a challenge? Perhaps the unknown still frightens the one. Would one let go because of obstacles? One is known for getting up, gather back again and start over again. (did one need more time to gather the pieces really?)
One always would find the excuses, but eventually, time does run out. Somehow one still doesn't feel the feeling the time is right yet to move on the career direction in giant steps.

Tags: crossroads, starting over, human.

What do you do to show others you love them?

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 03:47:07 GMT

cats luv

credit: http://www.flickr.com/photos/anushruti/

* Where there is love, distance doesn't matter.

o Mata Amritanandamayi

* Where there is real love, there is no selfishness.

o Mata Amritanandamayi

Tags: QaR, love, beloved, friends, family, partners

What does freedom mean to you?

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 05:06:47 GMT

omg, I do not know we totally have freedom at all times beause we are in one time or another we are obligated into responsibilities!

I only feel free when I head to the nature or when I am asleep! Or when I am with the people that I care and love, that's freedom! (which I would not take 4 granted!)

Flag of Canada

Tags: QaR, freedom, free, life

Where do you hold yourself back?

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 06:12:14 GMT

I could not support beliefs or causes that I really am passionate (or what are the good causes) about without feeling the heat or at the end knowing that there will be consquences afterwards. It could be because as one gets older, one realizes that there are always consequences to what you do.

Tags: QaR, life, restraint, living, self

Does Money Ease Pain

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 06:06:17 GMT

I have the longest urge or desire to write about $ woes. Since past weekend, or the past few months, there were not just money woes, there were political undertones along with $ issues. There would be some crossover with some policies and money.
*This writing is a suggestively.
Money becomes very much not an answer to all woes. Solutions becomes something that are coming from grassroots or somewhere unexpected. Money does not become end all. Some asked is the age of capitalism come to the end? Is the age of Marxism regained its momentum?
What these past few months, the world have become a reluctant global citizen(s) and becoming a conscious back to the roots folks. People feel they have to become the jones, as a result, our world could not handle rapid amount of the growth. We look inwards again. We believe that looking that way, as a result, would or might lead us to happiness? Trading with our own tribe or country would lead us to prosperity? Since there is no definition of how much money is too much, its infinite. (in both capitalist and Marxist.)
Lets look at what one owns: clothing, food and home and that are the basics. These are the necessities and that would lead to happiness and warmth and a sense of safety. If one doesn't have one or any of those, one can be very stressful. In terms of happiness, probably not too happy if one needs to seek for clothing. If need to seek for housing or food, well, still not too happy. Most will seek for clothes first, because most would not do without clothing. Then, we should seek for jobs before seeking for food and shelter. Since clothes are taken care of, one can seek for a job. Without money, one could not have a safe shelter or food. Hopefully soon, that one person can get some assistance to seek for a job from job fair. Once again, its stressful to do that. Once job is obtained, the cycle begin again....

Tags: capitalism, depression, ease, happiness, job, marxism, money, pain, political

What would you like to commit to?

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 03:16:36 GMT

Every truth has two sides; it is as well to look at both, before we commit ourselves to either.
Aesop

aesop: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Aesop_pushkin01.jpg

Tags: QaR, commitment, promise, covenant, vow

What value is most important for you right now?

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 04:55:00 GMT

There are lots of values in the past I consider as important: honesty, being oneself, loving self, and having integrity.
Going back in the present: I do not think these values any less, but as I grow older, as I experienced and witness life in a way that allows me to be more "tolerant", rather a better word, "understanding" and "accepting" the way each of the individuals are dependent on the situation(s), the so called value of mine changed to: flexibility, patience, loving, forgiving and remain with integrity.
Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one's values.
Ayn Rand 1905 - 1982, US Russian-born novelist

Tags: QaR, values, life, integrity, self

Lately...

http://discoverfarther-w-humanity.gaia.com — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 04:25:09 GMT

roses

I would or can say not much had happened, but that is not really true. i have quite a bit on my plate and usually I do try to blog here at least once a week with a picture or a thought. Instead of those QaR's, I would like to be more random for this week. This month will be my busiest month, since this is the month of Gay pride celebrations take place in many countries in honour of the Stonewall riots. Father Day is on the 3rd Sunday of June. High school graduates will be celebrating their milestone into their next journey. Its also the beginning of summertime for folks to gather for outdoor sports: golf, swimming, barbecues, camping, traveling, hiking, taking photographs, carnivals and summer storms. (that's not the good part)
My current project right now is: taking photographs of flowers and plants of garden(s) in near my surroundings. For me, traveling is not much of a feasible thing to do, oh we know the pandemic(which I will not go into about)

Tags: personal, thoughts, photographs, summer, spring, rain, celebration, outdoors, happiness, father